The Snipe and the Clam Grapple
鹬啄蚌，蚌夹鹬，互不相让，渔人得利。成语喻双方争执让第三方获利。谈判与竞争策略常引。
A snipe and clam lock in struggle; a fisherman takes both. When two fight, a third may profit—classic negotiation warning.
鹬蚌相争：两败俱伤，渔翁得利——冲突消耗本身就是礼物送给第三者。不是劝人永远退让，而是问：这场争是否值得把红利让给旁观者。相争之前，先算清第三者是谁。今日：撕扯前先算「渔翁是谁」。
Snipe and clam quarrel: both weaken, the fisherman profits—conflict’s burn is a gift to a third. Not eternal yielding; ask whether the fight is worth handing surplus to the watcher. Today: before tearing, name who the fisherman is.
After the moral, ask one question: if a similar choice showed up today, where does the story snag? Name that tension first—then take your own step. You need not copy the ancients, only borrow their clarity.